Who are we, if not measured by our impact on others? That’s who we are! We’re not who we say we are, we’re not who we want to be — we are the sum of the influence and impact that we have, in our lives, on others.
Life is a continuum, but when I look back, I see it in fragments, not broken from the whole but segregated by place, time, and my own degree of awareness. These fragments, these moments, are the only truth I know. My experience and feelings are all I can claim as my own. If writers are to write about what we know, then my life as I witness it each moment is all I believe I know and can write about truthfully.
The stories of your life, your memoir, can provide continuity for your experiences and feelings between birth and death. Recording and sharing these stories can provide the adhesion to bring together the many fragments of one’s being. Your stories also serve as stepping stones for those who will come after, until they choose to walk their own path.
I record life experiences from dreams, insights, philosophy, and the everyday. I share this because it is important for us to see how another human fits and does not fit into this world. Although I present them with as much clarity as I can have with words, I realize these essays, stories, and poems are filtered through my brain and remain my experience. Yours will be different but we each share some communal thread of connection which becomes visible when our experiences are shared. Through the telling of our stories we connect with one another and experience the commonness of our lives more than the disconnects of our 24/7 existence.